Friday, 29 August 2014
Wednesday, 27 August 2014
Monthly Guide: Dealing with peer pressure.
Hello internet!
So as seen in the title I will be posting a monthly guide. There is no fixed date for it but every month there will be a post discussing a certain topic and giving advice on it. This month it is "dealing with peer pressure".
I believe this issue is not given enough attention. Yes it is mentioned often but I believe that it's not mentioned enough because teenagers and sometimes young adults do things which they believe is wrong and know is wrong just because of peer pressure.
To briefly define the term "peer pressure", it is when a person feels obliged to do something out of their comfort zone and beyond their limits because of friends who pressure them to do so.(kind of obvious but just to make sure!)
So I think the first and most important point to cover is personal limits and boundaries. As part of going through your teen years, making decisions is extremely important because the repercussions could be very severe if the wrong decision is made.So, every teen should have limits for themselves which they will NEVER cross. Peer pressure encourages the individuals to push those boundaries and cross their limits. So for example, someone could have a "limit" of not drinking.Standing up for yourself when pressurized to drink is not something easy to do if everyone around you is drinking and if you're being humiliated for not taking part in a common activity.It does not have to be drinking it could be any limit that you have set for yourself and are being bullied into crossing.So set your limits if you haven't already and stick to them!
So if you do start to feel intimidated and you start feeling the pressure from your friends to do something which you do not want to do, here are a few helpful tips on how to deal with it and stand up for yourself:
Now the last point I want to cover is to share with you (from personal experience) that if your friends intimidate you or humiliate you after making your point then I think you should change your company and befriend those who share the same morals as you and respect your limits and decisions, and who will also correct you when you do something wrong. "Friends" is a really intricate topic and I could go on and on about it. But I think you realize the point that is being made.
Lastly, I know that peer pressure is a common issue and so many people have questions about it so feel free to leave questions in the comment section, although I know no-one will ;) I hope this post was helpful because I know that most schools in the UK open this week so I just wanted to do something which would help in the long-run of your school-life. But anyways (I just can't stop typing!) I hope you liked this post!
Chifae B.
So as seen in the title I will be posting a monthly guide. There is no fixed date for it but every month there will be a post discussing a certain topic and giving advice on it. This month it is "dealing with peer pressure".
I believe this issue is not given enough attention. Yes it is mentioned often but I believe that it's not mentioned enough because teenagers and sometimes young adults do things which they believe is wrong and know is wrong just because of peer pressure.
To briefly define the term "peer pressure", it is when a person feels obliged to do something out of their comfort zone and beyond their limits because of friends who pressure them to do so.(kind of obvious but just to make sure!)
So I think the first and most important point to cover is personal limits and boundaries. As part of going through your teen years, making decisions is extremely important because the repercussions could be very severe if the wrong decision is made.So, every teen should have limits for themselves which they will NEVER cross. Peer pressure encourages the individuals to push those boundaries and cross their limits. So for example, someone could have a "limit" of not drinking.Standing up for yourself when pressurized to drink is not something easy to do if everyone around you is drinking and if you're being humiliated for not taking part in a common activity.It does not have to be drinking it could be any limit that you have set for yourself and are being bullied into crossing.So set your limits if you haven't already and stick to them!
So if you do start to feel intimidated and you start feeling the pressure from your friends to do something which you do not want to do, here are a few helpful tips on how to deal with it and stand up for yourself:
- Keep your head straight and don't look down. Body language gives off very strong vibes and speaks louder than words.
- Speak with a firm voice and not a shaky voice. If you starts stuttering and mumbling you will not seem confident and you won't be taken seriously. Speak like you ACTUALLY believe what you are implying.
- Express yourself confidently and firmly but don't be rude, I mean you might feel like shouting sometimes or even assaulting the person but restrain yourself so that you don't come off as being aggressive or rude.
- Lastly, remember to speak in a way that shows you'll stick to your decision and won't change your mind.
Now the last point I want to cover is to share with you (from personal experience) that if your friends intimidate you or humiliate you after making your point then I think you should change your company and befriend those who share the same morals as you and respect your limits and decisions, and who will also correct you when you do something wrong. "Friends" is a really intricate topic and I could go on and on about it. But I think you realize the point that is being made.
Lastly, I know that peer pressure is a common issue and so many people have questions about it so feel free to leave questions in the comment section, although I know no-one will ;) I hope this post was helpful because I know that most schools in the UK open this week so I just wanted to do something which would help in the long-run of your school-life. But anyways (I just can't stop typing!) I hope you liked this post!
Chifae B.
Monday, 25 August 2014
Sunday, 24 August 2014
Friday, 22 August 2014
Origins Lip Balm
Lip-care
So I mentioned on the health's page that it is important to have healthy skin, I don't know what the scientific term is for what lips are made out of but nonetheless it is also important to keep your lips healthy. Although "Origins" is pricey it is totally worth it! If you can't afford it there must be high-street alternatives wherever you live.
So I mentioned on the health's page that it is important to have healthy skin, I don't know what the scientific term is for what lips are made out of but nonetheless it is also important to keep your lips healthy. Although "Origins" is pricey it is totally worth it! If you can't afford it there must be high-street alternatives wherever you live.
Thursday, 21 August 2014
Back To School Resolutions
Hey Internet people!
Back to School is the "hot-topic" at the moment. I understand why. It's a new academic year, new beginnings etc. So if it's a fresh start and turn-over, I encourage YOU to make resolutions for the new school year just as you make resolutions for "New-year".
Did you spread a rumor that wasn't true? Did you betray your friend(s)? Did you not study hard enough? Do you swear? Did you not stay healthy?
The list goes on and on. YOU must "right" the "wrongs". Don't be shy to take a step towards greatness, even if you think it makes you look less cool; things like participating in class or working hard.
I will give you a few tips on some resolutions I have picked for myself.
1. Be more healthy.
*Make sure you have breakfast! (I suck at this) But even if it's just a smoothie or a fruit.
*Go for a jog or hit the gym at least once a week (I suck at this too LOL)
*Have lots of water, not only will this keep your body healthy but it keeps your skin healthy , (I started doing this but then lost the habit). Drink at least 1 liter a day.
2. Do more!!!
*Don't be shy to say yes to opportunities given to you.
*Go out and try out for things that interest you.(this includes performing if acting or singing is your strong suit)
*Join a club of your interest to meet new people.
3. Be more confident.
*Don't let yourself be intimidated by others.
*Stand up against bullies
*Be proud of your Identity (Name, Race, Color , Religion ,Ethnicity)
4. Be positive!
* Don't let anyone dictate your mood except yourself
*Think of all the positives happening in your life rather than the negative.
*SMILE!
*One point I do need to raise also is that you may not have the same friends next year, some may have moved away or you may have moved away. Just remember that goodbye is not the end but rather the beginning of a new adventure. Stay strong and have faith.
I know that many of these points may be things that you already have implied into your life and some things you find too hard to apply in your life but they're my goals, now make your own!
Chifae B. x
Back to School is the "hot-topic" at the moment. I understand why. It's a new academic year, new beginnings etc. So if it's a fresh start and turn-over, I encourage YOU to make resolutions for the new school year just as you make resolutions for "New-year".
Did you spread a rumor that wasn't true? Did you betray your friend(s)? Did you not study hard enough? Do you swear? Did you not stay healthy?
The list goes on and on. YOU must "right" the "wrongs". Don't be shy to take a step towards greatness, even if you think it makes you look less cool; things like participating in class or working hard.
I will give you a few tips on some resolutions I have picked for myself.
1. Be more healthy.
*Make sure you have breakfast! (I suck at this) But even if it's just a smoothie or a fruit.
*Go for a jog or hit the gym at least once a week (I suck at this too LOL)
*Have lots of water, not only will this keep your body healthy but it keeps your skin healthy , (I started doing this but then lost the habit). Drink at least 1 liter a day.
2. Do more!!!
*Don't be shy to say yes to opportunities given to you.
*Go out and try out for things that interest you.(this includes performing if acting or singing is your strong suit)
*Join a club of your interest to meet new people.
3. Be more confident.
*Don't let yourself be intimidated by others.
*Stand up against bullies
*Be proud of your Identity (Name, Race, Color , Religion ,Ethnicity)
4. Be positive!
* Don't let anyone dictate your mood except yourself
*Think of all the positives happening in your life rather than the negative.
*SMILE!
*One point I do need to raise also is that you may not have the same friends next year, some may have moved away or you may have moved away. Just remember that goodbye is not the end but rather the beginning of a new adventure. Stay strong and have faith.
I know that many of these points may be things that you already have implied into your life and some things you find too hard to apply in your life but they're my goals, now make your own!
Chifae B. x
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